Sober-curious - meaning and definition
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Definition
Describes someone choosing to drink little or no alcohol, out of interest in how they feel without it, rather than necessarily for recovery.
At a glance
- Choosing to drink little or no alcohol out of interest in how life feels without it.
- Not necessarily linked to recovery.
- 'Sober' on a profile can mean long-term recovery.
- 'California sober' usually means no alcohol but still using cannabis.
- Respecting someone's choice not to drink is basic courtesy.
In detail
Sober-curious daters often suggest coffee, walks or activities rather than bar dates. "Sober" on a profile can mean long-term recovery, which some people prefer to mention early so that partners understand.
"California sober" usually means avoiding alcohol but still using cannabis. Respecting someone's choice not to drink, without pressure or questions, is a basic courtesy.
In a sentence
- Sober-curious, so coffee or a walk sounds better than a bar.
- I'm sober, two years now. Happy to talk about it if you're curious.
Where the word comes from
The phrase sober curious spread in the late 2010s, helped by a 2018 book of that title by Ruby Warrington.
Common questions
Is sober-curious the same as being in recovery?
No. Sober-curious people choose to drink less or not at all out of curiosity or for wellbeing. People in recovery are sober because of a past problem with alcohol or drugs. Both deserve the same respect.
What are good date ideas for someone who doesn't drink?
Coffee, a walk, a gallery or museum, a cooking class, a market, a game of mini golf or anything active. Many bars also serve good alcohol-free drinks.