Dungeon monitor - meaning and definition
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Definition
A volunteer or staff member at a kink event who watches for safety problems and consent violations and can step in or stop a scene.
At a glance
- A dungeon monitor watches for safety problems and consent violations at kink events.
- They know the house rules, respond to the event safeword and carry basic safety equipment.
- They may pause a scene that looks unsafe and check that everyone is alright.
- They also handle incidents and complaints.
- They are an extra layer of protection, not a substitute for partners' own responsibility.
In detail
Dungeon monitors know the house rules, respond to the event safeword, carry basic safety equipment and handle incidents or complaints. They may pause a scene that looks unsafe and check that everyone is alright.
Monitors are an extra layer of protection, not a substitute for partners taking responsibility for their own negotiation and safety.
In a sentence
- If anything feels off, find a dungeon monitor; they wear a coloured armband here.
- The dungeon monitor stepped in and paused the scene just to check everyone was okay.
Where the word comes from
'Dungeon' is the community word for a play space at a club or event, and the monitor is the person who watches over it. Some events use other titles, such as safety officer.
Common questions
What does a dungeon monitor do?
They watch for safety problems and consent violations, respond to the event safeword, carry basic safety equipment, can pause or stop a scene and handle complaints.
Should I report a problem to a dungeon monitor?
Yes. Monitors are there to help with anything that feels unsafe or wrong, including consent violations. Well-run events also have a process for reporting after the event.