Protocol - meaning and definition
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Definition
Agreed rules, rituals or forms of behaviour that express a power-exchange dynamic, such as particular forms of address or ways of greeting.
At a glance
- Protocol means agreed rules or rituals that express a power-exchange dynamic.
- 'High protocol' means formal, detailed rules; 'low protocol' means relaxed, everyday versions.
- Examples include forms of address, seating at events or a ritual at the start of a scene.
- Good protocol is discussed openly and reviewed as the relationship changes.
- Rules that cannot be questioned or renegotiated are a warning sign.
In detail
Protocol gives structure and meaning to a D/s relationship. 'High protocol' refers to formal, detailed rules, often kept for special occasions; 'low protocol' to relaxed, everyday versions. Examples might be how a submissive addresses a dominant, where they sit at events or a ritual at the start of a scene.
Good protocol is written or discussed openly, reviewed as the relationship changes and never used as a way to isolate someone or override their basic needs. Rules that cannot be questioned or renegotiated are a warning sign.
In a sentence
- We keep high protocol for events and something much more relaxed at home.
- Our protocol is written down, and either of us can ask to change it at our monthly check-in.
Common questions
What is the difference between high and low protocol?
High protocol is formal and detailed, often kept for special occasions or events. Low protocol is a lighter, everyday version that fits around ordinary life.
When does protocol become unhealthy?
When rules cannot be questioned, are used to cut someone off from friends or support, or override basic needs such as rest, food or health care. Healthy protocol can always be renegotiated.