Topdrop - meaning and definition
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Definition
A low mood, doubt or exhaustion that a top or dominant may feel after play, similar to subdrop.
At a glance
- Topdrop is a low mood, doubt or exhaustion a top or dominant may feel after play.
- It is similar to subdrop but affects the person in the active role.
- Tops may feel drained, guilty or unsure whether they did right by their partner.
- Aftercare plans that include the top, such as reassurance and a debrief, help.
- It is a reminder that care in kink runs in both directions.
In detail
Tops and dominants carry responsibility during a scene, and afterwards they may feel drained, guilty or unsure whether they did right by their partner, especially after intense play.
Recognising topdrop helps both partners plan aftercare that includes the top: reassurance, a debrief and time to recover. It is a reminder that care in kink runs in both directions.
In a sentence
- He gets topdrop after long scenes, so I make sure to tell him how good it felt to be looked after.
- Our aftercare plan includes time for my topdrop too.
Where the word comes from
Formed on the model of 'subdrop', using 'top' for the person in the active role.
Common questions
Do dominants need aftercare?
Often, yes. Tops and dominants carry responsibility during a scene and can feel drained or doubtful afterwards. Reassurance, a debrief and time to recover help.