Orientations

Questioning

Alsoquestioning sexualityunsure of my orientation

Definition

Describes someone who is exploring or unsure about their sexual orientation or gender identity.

At a glance

  • Describes exploring or being unsure about one's orientation or gender identity.
  • A common and ordinary experience at any age.
  • Sometimes represented by the Q in LGBTQ+.
  • There is no deadline and no requirement to settle on a label.

In detail

Questioning is a recognised and ordinary stage for many people, at any age. It is sometimes represented by the Q in LGBTQ+, alongside queer.

There is no deadline for working things out and no requirement to settle on a label. Supportive conversations, reading and community spaces can help, and some people find that questioning simply confirms the identity they already had.

In a sentence

  • I'm questioning at the moment, so I'd rather not pick a label yet.
  • The youth group is open to LGBTQ+ and questioning young people.

Not to be confused with

  • Bi-curious

    Bi-curious is narrower, describing curiosity about attraction to more than one gender.

Common questions

How do I know if I'm questioning?

If you are wondering about your orientation or gender identity, you are already questioning, and that is fine. Reading, talking with people you trust and spending time in supportive communities can help you think things through at your own pace.

Do I have to end up with a label?

No. Some people find a label that fits, some stay unlabelled, and some find that questioning confirms the identity they already had. All of these are valid outcomes.

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