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What is the difference?
BDSM vs Intimate partner violence
Because BDSM can involve power, restraint or intense sensation, people sometimes ask how it differs from abuse. The answer is consent: BDSM is negotiated and can be stopped at any time, while abuse is imposed and cannot be stopped by the person on the receiving end.
BDSM
An overlapping acronym for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism: consensual practices built around restraint, power exchange or intense sensation.
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In short
Calling something BDSM never makes non-consensual harm acceptable. If limits are pushed, safewords ignored or fear creeps in, it is abuse, and domestic abuse services can help.
What they have in common
Both can involve unequal power on the surface, which is why consent, not appearance, is what tells them apart.
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Last reviewed 10 October 2026. Spotted a mistake?