Swinging - meaning and definition
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Definition
A form of consensual non-monogamy in which committed couples engage in sexual activity with other people, often together or at social events.
At a glance
- A form of consensual non-monogamy centred on committed couples.
- Activity usually happens with both partners present or aware, often at social events.
- Emotional attachment to others is typically not the goal.
- Swinging communities often have clear etiquette about asking first and accepting a no.
In detail
Swinging developed as a social scene for couples, and many participants refer to it as "the lifestyle". Activity usually happens with both partners present or aware, often at clubs, parties or private meetups, and emotional attachment to others is typically not the goal.
Swinging communities often have well-established etiquette around consent, such as asking before touching and accepting a no gracefully. Couples usually agree in advance on what each is comfortable with. A pineapple symbol is sometimes used online as a discreet reference to swinging.
In a sentence
- My aunt and uncle are part of the swinging scene, and they say the etiquette is stricter than people think.
- We looked into swinging but decided it wasn't for us after a long talk.
Where the word comes from
The word became common in the 1960s, when it replaced older and cruder labels for couples who socialised in this way. Participants often call it the lifestyle.
Not to be confused with
- Polyamory
Polyamory centres on multiple loving relationships rather than primarily recreational encounters.
Common questions
What is the difference between swinging and polyamory?
Swinging usually focuses on shared social or sexual experiences for a couple, without romantic relationships. Polyamory focuses on ongoing, loving relationships with more than one person.
Why is a pineapple linked to swinging?
A pineapple is sometimes used online or on clothing as a discreet signal of interest in swinging. Most pineapples, of course, are just fruit.